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hawk or handsaw's avatar

Tom,

I lost my mom 12 years ago, far too young for me and her, and reading your message made me cry all over again. It was sudden, and you talk in your story about the gut punch of sudden loss and I think all I can say is that there's no good way to lose someone. Losing someone all at once is hard, and losing someone over years is hard.

Thank you for your story, thank you for sharing. I'm not going to tell you it gets easier with time because that's only partially true. I can tell you that people are good at forming scars and this will be a scars, but scars are just memories, and we should cherish those.

I hope all of you who care so deeply for your mom can support each other now and remind each other of the wonder person she clearly was.

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Alex Vaughn's avatar

This hits so close to home for me. I lost my mom to cancer in 2018. My dad had the same unwavering support for her in her final years, giving up anything he could to be able to care for her. Similarly to you, we had time to brace ourselves and say things that maybe we never would’ve said if it had been sudden. It’s still loss, though, and still hurts. My dream didn’t come until earlier this year. I told my mom about my kids she never got to meet, and she told me how proud of me she was. It’s been a while since I’ve let the tears flow, but they came back today after reading your mom’s story. Thank you for sharing this.

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