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Sep 20, 2023Liked by Tom Haberstroh

Tom,

I lost my mom 12 years ago, far too young for me and her, and reading your message made me cry all over again. It was sudden, and you talk in your story about the gut punch of sudden loss and I think all I can say is that there's no good way to lose someone. Losing someone all at once is hard, and losing someone over years is hard.

Thank you for your story, thank you for sharing. I'm not going to tell you it gets easier with time because that's only partially true. I can tell you that people are good at forming scars and this will be a scars, but scars are just memories, and we should cherish those.

I hope all of you who care so deeply for your mom can support each other now and remind each other of the wonder person she clearly was.

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You're right, Hawk. There is no good way. We can take the wins where we find them. Scars and all!

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Sep 21, 2023Liked by Tom Haberstroh

This hits so close to home for me. I lost my mom to cancer in 2018. My dad had the same unwavering support for her in her final years, giving up anything he could to be able to care for her. Similarly to you, we had time to brace ourselves and say things that maybe we never would’ve said if it had been sudden. It’s still loss, though, and still hurts. My dream didn’t come until earlier this year. I told my mom about my kids she never got to meet, and she told me how proud of me she was. It’s been a while since I’ve let the tears flow, but they came back today after reading your mom’s story. Thank you for sharing this.

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Lap tears again, Alex! I'm so happy you got that dream. It's unlike anything I've experienced. What a gift

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Sep 20, 2023Liked by Tom Haberstroh

Thank you for sharing her and her story for so long, and for continuing to do so. I lost my grandmother 22 years ago after a year and a half with ALS, and I still think about her often. Lots of love to you and your family.

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Thanks, Brian. ALS takes the best of us, I'm positive of that. I'm sure your grandmother was a wonderful lady, which is why she stays with you after all this time. It's a blessing

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Sep 20, 2023Liked by Tom Haberstroh

I'm crying! Thank you, man. Best to you and yours always.

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I understand that you are going through a difficult time, and I am sorry for the pain you are experiencing. Writing was a helpful mechanism for me to overcome my grief as well. When I lost Mom, I had a similar dream where she was okay and reassured my sister and me that everything was alright. Perhaps our loved ones continue to watch over us even after they have passed away.

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Hey Tom,

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Tom, Thanks for sharing your journey with your Mom and family. You have written a beautiful story for us to be comforted by sharing our own grief with yours. I love the MOM dream. Surely only a Mom can pull off the last best goodbye. :) She's proud of you and this fine moment of sharing love shared.

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Tom, I'm so sorry for your loss. You through your love and actions, whether it's eating the Carolina reaper on the le betard show, to getting Lou Gehrig's day in baseball have represented you're I'm going to make my pain in to something positive for many as best people can do.

I know what you are going through is hard, (I have a wife with MS, and a mother who passed away too young) but it's the legacy of helping others through the fight that makes all the difference. Take that lesson she gave you of unconditional love and spread it those in your world who are worthy of that gift.

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I appreciate this, Jon. The Reaper still burns lol. Your wife is in good hands, I'm sure. This was very kind of you to share.

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